Give to get more, A simple tip of Greatness

​The world is a beautiful place; some people yell that all the time, what’s so fine about this world? They say! When there could be very annoying people everywhere we go, we try to equivocate this personalities every day whether at work or at school or just catching fun.

That’s me thinking out loud😝

Most times I stare at the sky folding my arms wondering how endless it seems, sometimes it’s beautiful or not. Intuitively I aware it’s “Geod” as they said. (At least I’ve seen a satellite proving this theory).

This begs the question: Is intuition always right?

Good enough instincts always depends on theories or facts to function for example; instincts say that feeling pain is insecurity better still it’s because of a loop hole.

Every human being intuitive thinks and knows that to succeed is an essential part of existence in fact it makes it easier for your voice to be not just heard but worshipped. This is the way we have been raised, from infancy, crawling to standing upright then walking in progression is admired by our parents as success. When a child starts elementary school, the propagation of success is monitored by how fast the child adapts to education through High school even to the greatest height of education! All of these highlights not only stamp “success” in our mentality it’s accompanied with the burning desire to be a success story.

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Rationally, we would admit that the rate of success of a Nobel laureate is an insult when compared to an elementary school ‘Pupil’.

That’s life!

As we grow through different stages of education, we begin to understand that success is not only about academics, it’s about being useful thus getting the right mindset of standing out, embracing who you are, neglecting negativity and finding focus anytime;  to motivate us towards greatness.

Our most noteworthy success in life is regularly found in helping other people succeed. Our most enduring and satisfying accomplishments are frequently earned by helping other people satisfy theirs. This is a remote intuition to a culture that regularly observes the world as one Goliath rivalry. In their psyche, there are a set number of champs and losers. What’s more, in the event that another person wins, that is one less open door for me. Be that as it may, I have come to understand the outlook of rivalry depends on a erroneous mindset. It expected that there is a limited measured pie that one more accomplishment in another’s life, breaks even with one less achievement in mine. Yet, truth be told, this reasoning is incorrect. There is brilliant flexibility and effortlessness in understanding the extent of the pie is not limited that truly, the pie continues developing. Another’s prosperity does not mean I have less open door. Indeed, other people’s prosperity can really be my success if I had chance to empower, support, and advance them along the way! Consider how helping others make progress (in any case you/they choose to characterize it) brings about critical advantages in various directions:

The receiver has reached a far greater potential than they could have on their own.

The world has been bettered and has been given a life-giving model to emulate.

The giver is remembered fondly and is often publicly (and privately) thanked for their contribution.

A stranger is likely to be the recipient of the original receiver “paying it forward.” And the cycle begins again. Now, just to be clear, I am beginning with a suspicion that our greatest joys in life are once in a while found in the persistent quest for egotistical ambition that narrow minded wishes dependably abandon us lacking and scanning for additional. Some may believe that line of speculation is excessively implausible, fantastical, or out-dated. They trust that in a no nonsense world in case I’m not paying special mind to #1, no one is. Be that as it may, that line of intuition is short-sighted. Inherently, we know we have been intended to live to something more prominent than ourselves. Our commitment to this world must be measured by something more significant than the span of our home or the area where it is found. What’s more, our lives will discover enduring hugeness by the way we live them… and how we empower others to experience theirs.

 It appears that the error a considerable lot of us make is in suspecting that there is a limited measure of achievement to be had in the world, thus we turn out to be so engrossed with accomplishing our own prosperity that we don’t put the time and care into cultivating the accomplishment of others. We have to understand that there is sufficient cash, enough clients, enough accomplishment to go around. Because another person picks up achievement does not imply that you will lose it. Tolerating this reality will help open you up to the extent of formal that accompany helping other people rise. So how precisely would you be able to help other people succeed?

1. Share your insight and expertise: Everyone is a specialist in something, and there are certainly individuals out there who can profit by your experience and knowledge. Being open to giving your time and offering to others to help them excel is an entirely basic undertaking. Furthermore, through coaching you yourself will increase new learning, aptitudes and enhance your critical thinking capabilities.

2. Share your resources: I’ve had such a large number of individuals bail me out with my new displaying office for the most part by imparting their system to me and interfacing me with others in the mold business. It doesn’t serve them… yet. I certainly will recollect the greater part of the favors and reimburse them when I’m capable. It might have taken one minute of their time, yet it has helped me to develop my business immensely.

3. Make others mindful of an opportunity: How numerous opportunities come your way that aren’t exactly ideal for you, yet could be incredible for another person? Rather than hitting the erase catch, passing these odds on to the individuals who may be more qualified is a little signal that could be an aggregate distinct advantage for another person.

4. Try not to tear others down: On the other hand, you can be a colossal help to others by not accepting the open door to insult when you have the shot. Not partaking in tearing those down who you might contend with and rather wishing them the best is a practice in great vibes that will dependably return to you. Also, why squander your vitality on trusting somebody falls flat when you could utilize it to develop your own success? By helping other people when you find the opportunity, you will construct further and more extensive associations that may profit your expert life however will definitely profit your life all in all. From an inspiration point of view, helping other people improves the importance and reason for our own particular lives, demonstrating to us that our commitments matter and invigorating us to work harder, longer, and quicker witted. The greatest pioneers of the world have gotten help in transit up and keep on paying it forward, now it’s your turn.

We all understand the principle of “give to get more”.

Its almost IMPOSSIBLE to attain greatness without affiliations with others, to succeed, we need to listen to people, discuss ideas, inspire  the society etc. All of these open doors of favor and motivates you more to pursue more. Start doing something for somebody now and you’ll soon become relevant and indispensable to everybody. God bless you.

​BECOMING THE LIGHT IN YOUR ENVIRONMENT

 

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Thinking out loud

I have tedious days, I break down and sometimes I just want to give in. Sometimes I feel like I’m in a trance, I ask myself what I am doing here. Why am I here? If I were to die now, where would I end up? Where would I be in 70 years? What is God’s purpose for me?

This world is filled with a lot of tasks, challenges etc unfolding as we spend every minute closing in on the future (well; some might say “The End Time”) with differing opportunities. Everyone going about their daily activities with the optimism that their immediate environment would bring laughter to their faces. People wake up every day with different goals, galvanizing their dreams with positivism and hope.

We all have problems no matter how small and insignificant they seem, ranging from self to our society. We wake up with different burdens and ‘headaches’ this is akin to the thoughts we go to bed with, the insincerity, insecurity, job problems and laziness we wine and dine with. Psychologically, the things we experience within our environment on a daily basis plays a role in painting what we’d become.

What am I driving at?

All of the differing life tasks at different levels drives us to one thing “purpose”

Question: What’s yours?

 What does it mean that God is light?

God is light,” says 1 John 1:5. Light is a common metaphor in the Bible. Proverbs 4:18 symbolizes righteousness as the “morning sun.” Philippians 2:15 likens God’s children who are “blameless and pure” to shining stars in the sky. Jesus used light as a picture of good works: “Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds” Matthew 5:16. Psalm 76:4 says of God, “You are radiant with light.”

The fact that God is light sets up a natural contrast with darkness. If light is a metaphor for righteousness and goodness, then darkness signifies evil and sin. 1 John 1:6 says that “if we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.” Verse 5 says, “God is light; in him there is no darkness at all.” Note that we are not told that God is a light but that He is light. Light is part of His essence, as is love 1 John 4:8. The message is that God is completely, unreservedly, absolutely holy, with no admixture of sin, no taint of iniquity, and no hint of injustice.

If we do not have the light, we do not know God. Those who know God, who walk with Him, are of the light and walk in the light. They are made partakers of God’s divine nature, “having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires” 2 Peter 1:4.

God is light, and so is His Son. Jesus said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life” John 8:12. To “walk” is to make progress. Therefore, we can infer from this verse that Christians are meant to grow in holiness and to mature in faith as they follow Jesus see 2 Peter 3:18.

God is light, and it is His plan that believers shine forth His light, becoming more like Christ every day.

1 Thessalonians 5:5

“You are all children of the light and children of the day. We do not belong to the night or to the darkness” 

God is the Creator of physical light as well as the Giver of spiritual light by which we can see the truth. Light exposes that which is hidden in darkness; it shows things as they really are. To walk in the light means to know God, understand the truth, and live in righteousness.

Believers in Christ must confess any darkness within themselves their sins and transgression and allow God to shine His light through them.

Christians cannot sit idly by and watch others continue in the darkness of sin, knowing that those in darkness are destined for eternal separation from God. The Light of the World desires to banish the darkness and bestow His wisdom everywhere (Isaiah 9:2; Habakkuk 2:14; John 1:9). In taking the light of the gospel to the world, we must by necessity reveal things about people that they would rather leave hidden. Light is uncomfortable to those accustomed to the dark (John 3:20).

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One of God’s purpose for our lives is to be “The light: The eye of the environment.”

The eye is not only the most beautiful but also the most important sensory organ of the human body; four fifths of all the impressions on the senses come from the eye. Moreover, the eyes make an essential contribution to the facial expression and serves a purpose of getting and making contact with other people, therefore the eyes are an indispensable means of communication.(Stralsund)

To be the light as God has mandated has many benefits;

Matthew 6:22

The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light.

From this Scripture, the environment held together by various activities, tasks, challenges people e.t.c can be likened to the human body held together by neurons, tendons, etc. Every part of the body is important as they have different functions. Without the eye the whole body would be in darkness.

1 Corinthians 12:27

 Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.

We are the children of God and by extension the eyes (light) of the environment (the body).

Light is a natural agent that stimulates sight and make things visible.

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Light as we know is an essential part of our environment. We need light to see, plants need light to grow we use it for everything. As Christians we must always be the source of light wherever we find ourselves, the world is in total darkness.

Matthew 5:15

Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.

God has tasked us to be a source of illumination, to Inspire, and influence the society.

Matthew 5:14

“You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hid.

Why must we be the light as God has asked us to be?

Isaiah 60:2-3

 2 For behold, darkness shall cover the earth, and thick darkness the peoples; but the LORD will arise upon you, and his glory will be seen upon you.

3 And nations shall come to your light, and kings to the brightness of your rising.

This assurance is accessible only if we choose the light, be a light source and share it.

How is the light Generated?

It begins with simply identifying with Christ, when you do: you automatically become an Eye: The light.

John 1:4

In him was life, and the life was the light of men.

John 8:12

 Again Jesus spoke to them, saying, “I am the light of the world; he who follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”

How we should generate at different levels

We generate at different spectrum though the gift of the spirit as stated in

Galatians 5:22-24

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,

23 gentleness, self-control; against such there is no law.

 24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

Jesus, the sinless Son of God, is the “true light” John 1:9. As adopted sons of God, we are to reflect His light into a world darkened by sin. Our goal in witnessing to the unsaved is “to open their eyes and turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan to God” Acts 26:18.

Thanks for your time, God bless you!

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The light: Understanding Why we must Illuminate

A Fresh Mindset For 2017: 5 Tips you should Try

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Resolutions made in faint absoluteness for the New Year is the wrong direction most people tread, we are so overjoyed (yikes its 2017!) caught up in sentiments. In this state we tend to unintentionally make promises that are not realistic. We are not committed but on the off-chance we are consumed in the spirit of the New Year. This begs the question;

Why do Resolutions not last?

Most times our resolutions never work out because we do it out of sentimentality, “the new year joy” what’s more, the happiness of crossing over to a new year can obscure our minds, and usually we receive and return hugs, share a drink, and spend time with loved ones. These occurrences in different platforms can create bias forcing us to ignore the dawn of reality.

The basics of naturally occurring circumstance can sometimes not be understood. Living or mere existence; whichever of these, moments unfold as the year rolls over thus striking the gut to leap over the edge, and the huge difference is in the ability to adapt at different societal levels thus I deduce that the accomplishment of goals doesn’t only come with the joyful  feelings but reality of life and hard work.

With the New Year in your hands, you might start to ponder; devising various means just like entrepreneurs and thinking success would birth happiness but having a luminous point of view can help build a better resolution. When the brain is positive, [it] releases neurochemicals called success accelerants like dopamine and they turn on that part of the brain that allow you to perceive more possibilities and process more information, a pessimistic mindset, by contrast, causes the brain to feel threatened, closing it off to new opportunities.

Having a luminous point of view can also help you make better resolutions and be more successful in achieving them. “Your brain is three times more creative in a positive state,” Achor. While an optimistic mindset is essential all year round, it’s particularly central towards the end of the year, when we begin to reflect on the past and eat our words of resolute complexity thus the reason we are in a hurry to make resolutions.

After making your 2017 goals, follow these five tips to get into a positive state of mind.

  1. Positive habits boost mental health.Integrate positive habits into your daily schedule and experience the benefits of an optimistic outlook.  Make every moment in your day worthwhile.
  2. Value Yourself: Many individuals see themselves as despicable, delight you with respect and kindness as you would to loved ones and avoid self-criticism. Take time to participate in activities and hobbies you fancy, it’s important too! Engage in whatever is good, enlightening, and makes you feel good. 15 Key ways to Express Self Love
  3. Take Care of Your Body: Staying physically healthy can help your mental health. Be sure to eat good food other than junk, get enough rest, drink plenty of water and avoid harmful substances. If you feel good physically, the probability of debilitating and worry are notably reduced. Surround Yourself with Good People. Learn to deal with stress: Dealing with stress is an inevitable part of our lives. (to read more on stress click on the link) Tips on Stress Management
  4. Give More: invest more of your time and energy to help others in need. It will be tremendously gratifying to see the positive results of your investment. Also remember to smile and look for the positive things in life.
  5. Find inner peace: Meditation and prayer can be helpful in silencing unwanted thoughts in your head. Set reasonable goals: Set goals for yourself personally and professionally and settle on measures to aid you in accomplishment these goals. Finding your Quiet Time in a Loud world

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Stay Blessed!

Dating Tips101 #8

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Be Enlightened: 3 Stages in Dating

There are 3 unsurprising stages that couples experience in a dating relationship. At every stage, there is frequently a choice (at times more keenly thoughtful than others) to push ahead or to end the relationship.

A few phases take longer than others to experience and a few people take any longer at every stage. Tragically, a few people don’t completely understand and process every phase as an open door for self-awareness or to make a solid assessment about the relationship or about themselves.

The First Stage: Initial Meeting/Attraction

Dating relationship needs to begin some place. The underlying meeting may occur over the web, through friends, in a congregation or social gathering, at a gathering or bar or any of a heap of various spots.

Distinctive fields for meeting take into account diverse chances to become acquainted with each other and check whether there is sufficient interest or enthusiasm to take it to the following level which would include masterminding a moment or third meeting.

Stage 2: Curiosity, Interest, and Infatuation

Amid the second stage, fascination and infatuation are generally affirmed.

Early fascination frequently includes the physical qualities of the fellow and incorporate things like outward appearance, body shape, interests and identity attributes. At this stage, the fascination may not be as well “profound” and every 50% of a couple is by and large putting his or her best foot forward. Contrasts are not saw or are expelled with musings like “not a major ordeal” or “she will change”.

Couples by and large don’t have much misunderstanding at this phase of the cycle as each is truly making a decent attempt to awe the other individual. Frequently (not generally) there is insufficient “is this the perfect match for me” but instead progressively “what would I be able to do to make this individual like me?”

This stage may keep going for 3 or 4 months relying upon the people and their development, experience and self-comprehension. Towards the end of this stage, and ideally at different circumstances all through it, it is not uncommon for inquiries of “is this the perfect individual for me” to rise. For ladies particularly there may likewise be a longing to make sense of where the relationship is going.

Going gradually in settling on any choices about a relationship will probably be preferred ones over moving rapidly (unless plainly the relationship is not a solid match).

Stage 3: “Edification” and Becoming a Couple

Amid this phase of a relationship, hormones are quieting down and reality sets in. Couples frequently go “further” in their association. Trust is more grounded and more affections might be shared at this phase as couples take away some of their “best face” and permit themselves to act all the more normally and loose.

Both parts of a couple will see shortcomings and contrasts or blemishes. “Adorable” propensities may get to be distinctly bothering at this stage. Some of those interminable issues or contrasts, for example, free-spending or thrifty, slick and efficient or messy and disrupted, intrigued by bunches of time together or more required in outside exercises start to rise.

At this phase of the relationship, couples will observe the distinctions and may even start to gripe or endeavor to issue fathom.

As closeness creates between the two individuals, more self-revelation rises, both verbally and nonverbally as couples act in ways that are more similar to how they are in their day by day life.

This is the point at which the unavoidable issue rises significantly more emphatically: “Where are we headed?” Women tend to pose this question before men, despite the fact that both might ponder about the response to this question. Pushing for a reply; be that as it may, may bring about genuine issues in the relationship. Every individual needs to listen to their own particular inward voice and insight. It is essential to talk over their contemplations and emotions with their accomplice while discovering approaches to keep from “pushing” for responsibility.

There is no compelling reason to hurry through this imperative stage and each motivation to go gradually.

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The Ugly Truth: Love is never enough, 6 basic factors that nurture Relationships

The light: Understanding Why we must Illuminate

Illumunation in the profound sense is “turning on the light” of comprehension in some range. All through the ages, individuals in each culture and religion have asserted some sort of disclosure or edification from God (whether genuine or not). At the point when that illumination manages new learning or future things, we call it prescience. At the point when that edification manages understanding and applying information effectively given, we call it enlightenment. Concerning of the last sort, the question emerges,

“How does God do it?”

The most fundamental level of illumination is the learning of transgression, and without that information, everything else is futile.

Psalm 18:28 says,

You are the one who lights my lamp the Lord my God illumines my darkness.

 

Psalms 119 which is the longest Chapter in the Bible, is a melody about God’s Word. In verse 130, it says “The entrace of your words gives light; it offers comprehension to the simple.” This verse builds up the fundamental technique for God’s enlightenment. At the point when God’s Word enters the heart of a man, it gives light and comprehension to them. Therefore, we are more than once advised to concentrate the Word of God.

 

Psalm 119:11 says

“You word I keep close in my heart so I might not sin against you.”

Verses 98 and 99 say ”
Customary investigation of the Word of God will provide guidance and comprehension in the issues of life. This is the main strategy for God’s brightening and the beginning stage for every one of us. In Psalm 119 we likewise discover another sort of God’s enlightenment. Verse 18 says,  These are not new disclosures, but rather things which have been composed and uncovered much sooner, and a few seconds ago comprehended by the peruser (one of those “aha!” minutes). Thus, verse 73 says, “Your hands made me and framed me; give me comprehension to take in your summons.” The supplication is for individual comprehension and utilization of God’s laws as they are examined by the person. Fifteen circumstances in this psalm, God gives understanding with respect to His laws.
One entry that occasionally blends contention in regards to light is John 14:26, “However the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will show all of you things and will help you to remember all that I have said to you.”

Jesus was addressing His followers in the upper room, giving them last directions before His demise. This uncommon gathering of men was to be in charge of spreading the uplifting news of Jesus Christ to the entire world. They had burned through three and a half years with Him, watching His supernatural occurrences and listening to His lessons. They would transfer those things to whatever remains of the world, and would need God’s exceptional help recalling those things precisely. Jesus said that the Holy Spirit would show them and help them to remember what had been said, so they could offer it to others (counting the written work of the Gospels). This verse does not show that the Spirit will do as such with all adherents (however there are different verses that talk about the Spirit’s lighting up work).
What is the Holy Spirit’s enlightening work in devotees?

Ephesians 1:17-18

17 I pray that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, will give you a spirit of wisdom and revelation that makes God known to you. 18 I pray that the eyes of your heart will have enough light to see what is the hope of God’s call, what is the richness of God’s glorious inheritance among believers.”

In 1 Corinthians 2:10-13, 

10 God has revealed these things to us through the Spirit. The Spirit searches everything, including the depths of God. 11 Who knows a person’s depths except their own spirit that lives in them? In the same way, no one has known the depths of God except God’s Spirit. 12 We haven’t received the world’s spirit but God’s Spirit so that we can know the things given to us by God. 13 These are the things we are talking about not with words taught by human wisdom but with words taught by the Spirit we are interpreting spiritual things to spiritual people.

God has uncovered His arrangements for us by His Spirit, who shows us very deep things. The setting here focuses to the Word of God as that which has been uncovered. The Spirit of God will dependably guide us toward the Word of God for our direction. As Jesus told His disciples in

John 16:12-15,

have much more to say to you, but you can’t handle it now. 13 However, when the Spirit of Truth comes, he will guide you in all truth. He won’t speak on his own, but will say whatever he hears and will proclaim to you what is to come. 14 He will glorify me, because he will take what is mine and proclaim it to you. 15 Everything that the Father has is mine. That’s why I said that the Spirit takes what is mine and will proclaim it to you.

To be continued next Monday…

Merry Christmas

Yaay! Its Christmas…

May your Christmas be filled with sparks of joyful moments, love, laughter, goodwill, and fulfilment.I pray that every moment bring satisfaction and celebrations that’ll last throughout the new year! Don’t forget to shower everyone around with Love and Jesus Joy.

May God bless you and your entire household…  

Hohoho!

Merry Christmas plus wishing you a ground breaking New Year…

From all of us at Relationship Pills!

Bridging two worlds: 3 common gospel mistakes we make

Two months ago, the drama team in my church staged a play about evangelism and the common mistakes we make. During the play, it felt like they were throwing shots at me. I was guilty for some of them, since then I’ve had this burden to put this issue up. As Christians often times while sharing the good news we cross the line, we seem to go far but the receiving end doesn’t respond to our message as expected on the off chance, we might be committing this blunder!

Quick question: At what Point do we Cross the Line?

Three years ago, in class; a colleague during a leadership class insulted the speaker to the extent I got mad. I felt so much rage because of the blasphemous words he uttered in fact he made mockery of all the speaker’s utterance. After the lecture, there was a burst up between us; another colleague Salau intervened and calmly spelt out his wrongdoings, Arrogant me said: “Leave him, when you’re pulling someone from the gate of hell and he’s hell bent on dying, there’s no crime”. The truth is I thought I was supporting God, Can a man fight for God? Can you bring people to Christ with arrogance and death message?

A resounding No!

As a Christian we should always remember “two wrongs can never make a right”.

A year later, I went for Global outreach day, so unknowingly we entered into a den of gamblers. As curious and young evangelists we shared the gospel and it looked like they were listening at first. After our scriptural declarations, they began the greatest height of blasphemous gestures and utterances I’ve ever experienced. Our coordinators simply said with a huge smile “Give your lives to Christ” then they asked us to leave.

Their response was Christlike, they knew where the line was and never crossed it… When do we Christians cross the line? I decided to write this after I read an update on social media, a scary message it entailed mostly “you’ll die, you’re going to hell.”  Is this the way,  we want to share God’s love and hospitality?

Romans 8:1 from another perspective;

“There is no now condemnation for those who are in Christ” its not talking just about you, it means as we have become a “Christ branch” a body; we can not be found condemning people no matter their stand. The gospel is good news not a death message on the off chance you do not seem to agree with me, its a love message of how Jesus died in place of you and i for the sake of love.

 

John 14:12

“Greater love hath no man than these that a man should lay down his life for His friend.”

1 John 4:8

“Whosoever does not love, does not know God because God is love.”

1 John 4:18-19

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 19 We love because he first loved us.

Here’s a lot of us get mixed up. I think that inadvertantly a lot of people believe in freedom of religion but also believe that their religion should have precedent over the others. And it’s logical, because we all believe we’re right. Otherwise, why would we believe what we believe?

But I don’t think this is a healthy mindset. Freedom of religion means just that freedom to believe whatever you deem fit. And you know what? It’s a two way thing. You deserve freedom to express your beliefs, but if you want that freedom respected, you’ve also got to reciprocate respect toward others’ beliefs.

But here’s the thing: respecting someone else’s beliefs doesn’t mean that you’re being ashamed of yours.

Rather, it means you’re implying “Hey, we believe different things. I respect your choice of those beliefs, and because I respect your rights, your opinion, I’m not going to force you to accept my beliefs without accepting yours as well.”

  I think this is particularly hard for we Christians because it’s so pushed to “share your faith share your faith SHARE YOUR FAITH!!!!!” Which I do believe is REALY important, Jesus himself commanded that we do. But if you look at Jesus’ life, a lot of what he did was respecting people’s dignity he touched an “unclean” woman, he healed lepers and treated them like family. Oftentimes when we’re so focused on forcing our beliefs on others even if it’s for the best of intentions, we forget to treat them with dignity in the process. Furhermore It is not respectful to use your friends’ heartbreak as a chance to try to convert them by forcing the Jesus talk on them when they’re most vulnerable. It would be the equivalent of someone coming up to you when you were going through hell and saying “Ha, what did I tell you? God doesn’t exist.

2. We Don’t Become All Things to All People

Now, in case you thought the above point was a “get out of jail free card” that let you never have to evangelize again, enter point two.

Sunday school often does a great job of teaching us “ how to evangelize .” And it becomes a character we do. We become spiritually alert (we didn’t have a “good” day, we had a “blessed”day), and make sure to always have a serene look on our faces. It sounds ridiculous, I know, but I see it almost every day. I think we can often get it into our heads that there is a right way to go about preaching the gospel. And that way is to present yourself as a perfect little stereotypical Christian.

But that’s not what the Bible says.

Instead, we’re supposed to be fluid and try to relate with the people around us. Please, with due respect!!! It doesn’t help anyone if you come in there with a “don’t you want to be just like me?” attitude.

Just to be clear : the end goal is for them not to have a life that looks like yours. The end goal is to help them allow Jesus into their lives so that Jesus can work with them where they’re at and take them to their own destination.

A lot of people shy away from church because they don’t fit in with the church crowd. That is one of the saddest things I have ever heard. But I think it’s because we’ve made ourselves so separate from the culture of the people around us, we’re too afraid of being seen as anything other than the most holy, or the most “spiritual” that we’ve forgotten how to simply relate to people.

That is so completely different than the first apostles’ experience. I’m just going to paste here what Paul said in

1 Corinthians 9:

Though I am free and belong to no one, I have made myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible.

To the Jews I became like a Jew, to win the Jews. To those under the law I became like one under the law (though I myself am not under the law), so as to win those under the law. To those not having the law I became like one not having the law (though I am not free from God’s law but am under Christ’s law), so as to win those not having the law. To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some.

I do all this for the sake of the gospel, that I might save some.

Jesus didn’t only come for one type of people (just Christians). He came for everyone. So why are we making it seem like Christianity is only for people who fit a “church crowd” stereotype?

3. We Use Christianity to Save Face

Often we can get so caught up in presenting Christianity well that we’re scared to be vulnerable. Because if we’re trying to show people why Jesus is the way, they won’t be interested unless our lives are perfect, right?

Wrong. And not only wrong, but actually pretty prideful, too.

Often we use our religion so that we don’t have to become vulnerable with people. We talk about the blessings that God has given us; we stay on the “safe” topics about how wonderful a relationship with Jesus is. So you talk for a while, but never actually say anything. You’ve only presented half of the message.

If we’re scared that nothing but the “perfect” life will attracf someone to God, we’re actually believing that “the gospel is more about me and my life than it is about God and what he did.” its  the bitter truth!

But think about it the gospel is true and it is powerful despite our weaknesses. In fact, even more than that, it is made powerful through our weaknesses! It is absolutely absurd to be scared that truth will scare people away from God. And you know why? Because God is truth.

God isn’t interested in tricking people into believing in him, like some bad telecommunications service. He wants people to engage in a deep, intimate/active relationship with Him that isn’t possible if it’s shallow or one sided. God isn’t only God in the good. He is also God in the bad. So let’s give Him and His gospel some credit, truth and hospitality are some of the most powerful tools we have, because it shows how God can work even when we mess everything up.

Inspired by Dr Ravi Zacharias’ Bridging two Worlds.

Please kindly drop your views in the comment box…

Have a blessed Christmas in advance!


Just smile

(Image source: Monica Birdsong)

SMILE

Smile, an expression that can touch the depth of a person’s soul, heal the brokenhearted and reassure in the greatest of griefs.

Smile, an expression that attracts the most reluctant and breaks the toughest of resistances.

Smile, an expression that portrays innocence and serenity.

Smile, as calm as the beautiful blue sea yet able to create a surge of emotions as the waves of the oceans.

Smile, an expression that can get into the innermost parts of the heart and set free.

Smile, not just any smile but a sincere smile.

A sincere smile: give a sincere smile today and touch someone’s soul, give a sincere smile today and bring relief to someone’s heartache, give a sincere smile today and give someone hope for tomorrow, give a sincere smile, so someone who has been heartbroken can know that there’s more to life than pain, give a sincere smile and not just make someone happy but make yourself happy. Just smile, smile, smile with all the love and life within you because you never can tell whose soul or heart you will be touching. SMILE cos there’s a form of healing in that smile. JUST SMILE

Welcome to the festive season.

Happy New Month!

Olajuwon Josephine

The Ugly Truth: Love is never enough, 6 basic factors that nurture Relationships

We think that the hardest thing in a relationship is finding the right person. After that, we fall in love and live happily ever after, right? Those in a relationship know all too well that fairy tales are only true in the movies. The truth of the matter is that having and maintaining a relationship is not easy. The rate of divorce tells us that love is not enough; other factors are needed to keep a relationship going.

Correspondence issues are a noteworthy hotspot for relationship issues. Individuals by and large simply don’t know how to converse with each other. More often than not, the couple has invested years contending, battling or notwithstanding evading issues, yet the unavoidable happens, somebody achieves the end of their rope. Loss of trust, disarray about whether regardless we cherish each other, battles constantly and the failure to concede to anything are a portion of the signs to perceive that a relationship is having genuine correspondence issues.

The objective of the directing procedure is to educate Compromise particular aptitudes that are basic in keeping a relationship alive and developing. Ordinarily the couples that I have seen had a deficiency in at least one of the basic fixings expected to concoct an incredible relationship. I would prefer not to misdirect anybody, adore is essential to a relationship. The impetus gets the entire thing going, yet the accompanying are fixings that keep the adoration alive and the relationship sound.

Maturity

A mature individual is defind as a man who has a feeling of self. He/she can perceive that both individuals in the relationship are distinctive. They can see that each has an alternate legacy, an alternate state of mind, feeling and perhaps extraordinary convictions. The develop individual can perceive the I, Me and the Us in the relationship. With every one of the distinctions in identities, considerations and sentiments, it’s a ponder that we got together in any case. 
Without the component of development, a couple can get all fouled up in light of the fact that they lose themselves in a relationship. They can get to be desirous, needy, angry and far off. All of which can disintegrate the reason the couple turned into a couple in any case.

Capacity to Compromise 

The capacity to bargain alludes to an individual’s readiness and capability at finding the center ground. Having the capacity to trade off is an indication of development. It is likewise required in any relationship. In the event that one individual dependably gets his/her way, the other individual will undoubtedly feel overwhelmed, and angry. These negative emotions can tear the heart ideal out of any relationship. Finding the upbeat center can give the best of both universes… giving and accepting. Sharing the last dish of dessert with a companion is constantly superior to eating it isolated, would it say it isn’t?

Flexibility

Connections are not static. They are perpetually evolving. In the event that they get to be static for a really long time, they can get to be wiped out like the dinosaurs. Connections experience an existence cycle: the special night, with youngsters, emotional meltdown, the vacant home and the reacquainting time frame and afterward passing of a mate and the end of the relationship. These stages require change, learning and investigation of new domain. In the event that one or both individuals in the relationship gets to be unbending and impervious to required changes the relationship could end in separation. As I would see it, one of the real reasons that couples end in separation is on the grounds that they were not able change to meet the new needs and requests of the relationship. One or both were not able or unwilling to roll out the required improvements to keep the relationship developing; therefore, the relationship kicked the bucket. Transform we should, it is a piece of the human condition. In the event that it was not, we would all still be newborn children in diapers.

Great Communication Skills

The capacity to let each know different musings, emotions and needs is so vital to a relationship. Great, open, and legitimate correspondence resemble oil to an auto. Without oil in the auto, inner parts will consume and the auto will be prepared for the scrap heap. Correspondence is critical! 
There are no mind perusers. For a relationship to develop and flourish, likes, despises, wants, trusts, dreams and issues should be said. On the off chance that a couple’s correspondence is confined, the relationship is bound for significant issues not far off. We take autos for oil changes to prop them up securely, why not look for an expert’s help to change our correspondence designs with a specific end goal to keep the relationship fit as a fiddle simply like our cars?

Knowing when to give Space 

Each one needs space to breath, space to deal with their own contemplations, sentiments and issues. In the event that somebody is continually holding tight you, there is a propensity to need to push them off to diminish the weight of conveying them constantly. Giving individual spaces gives any individual the capacity to see things all the more unmistakably. 


Maximum Support and Trust 

One of the advantages of a relationship is that we will have somebody in our corner to bolster us and to assert our reality. This bolster adds to the trust that is required in any relationship. Without shared support, a trusting relationship won’t create. Every part should have its enthusiastic needs met with a specific end goal to keep on investing in the relationship. The proceeded with support and the being there for the other individual candidly is the route in which trust is created. On the off chance that a trusting relationship is developed and kept up, the capacity to attempt new enterprises and go out on a limb are upgraded. A strong trusting relationship outside of the room dependably builds the movement in the room.

You deserve it and your mate to discover answers to your battles. Keep in mind, nobody is prepared on the best way to have an incredible relationship, so we will undoubtedly keep running into issues.