A Fresh Mindset For 2017: 5 Tips you should Try

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Resolutions made in faint absoluteness for the New Year is the wrong direction most people tread, we are so overjoyed (yikes its 2017!) caught up in sentiments. In this state we tend to unintentionally make promises that are not realistic. We are not committed but on the off-chance we are consumed in the spirit of the New Year. This begs the question;

Why do Resolutions not last?

Most times our resolutions never work out because we do it out of sentimentality, “the new year joy” what’s more, the happiness of crossing over to a new year can obscure our minds, and usually we receive and return hugs, share a drink, and spend time with loved ones. These occurrences in different platforms can create bias forcing us to ignore the dawn of reality.

The basics of naturally occurring circumstance can sometimes not be understood. Living or mere existence; whichever of these, moments unfold as the year rolls over thus striking the gut to leap over the edge, and the huge difference is in the ability to adapt at different societal levels thus I deduce that the accomplishment of goals doesn’t only come with the joyful  feelings but reality of life and hard work.

With the New Year in your hands, you might start to ponder; devising various means just like entrepreneurs and thinking success would birth happiness but having a luminous point of view can help build a better resolution. When the brain is positive, [it] releases neurochemicals called success accelerants like dopamine and they turn on that part of the brain that allow you to perceive more possibilities and process more information, a pessimistic mindset, by contrast, causes the brain to feel threatened, closing it off to new opportunities.

Having a luminous point of view can also help you make better resolutions and be more successful in achieving them. “Your brain is three times more creative in a positive state,” Achor. While an optimistic mindset is essential all year round, it’s particularly central towards the end of the year, when we begin to reflect on the past and eat our words of resolute complexity thus the reason we are in a hurry to make resolutions.

After making your 2017 goals, follow these five tips to get into a positive state of mind.

  1. Positive habits boost mental health.Integrate positive habits into your daily schedule and experience the benefits of an optimistic outlook.  Make every moment in your day worthwhile.
  2. Value Yourself: Many individuals see themselves as despicable, delight you with respect and kindness as you would to loved ones and avoid self-criticism. Take time to participate in activities and hobbies you fancy, it’s important too! Engage in whatever is good, enlightening, and makes you feel good. 15 Key ways to Express Self Love
  3. Take Care of Your Body: Staying physically healthy can help your mental health. Be sure to eat good food other than junk, get enough rest, drink plenty of water and avoid harmful substances. If you feel good physically, the probability of debilitating and worry are notably reduced. Surround Yourself with Good People. Learn to deal with stress: Dealing with stress is an inevitable part of our lives. (to read more on stress click on the link) Tips on Stress Management
  4. Give More: invest more of your time and energy to help others in need. It will be tremendously gratifying to see the positive results of your investment. Also remember to smile and look for the positive things in life.
  5. Find inner peace: Meditation and prayer can be helpful in silencing unwanted thoughts in your head. Set reasonable goals: Set goals for yourself personally and professionally and settle on measures to aid you in accomplishment these goals. Finding your Quiet Time in a Loud world

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Stay Blessed!

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Be Enlightened: 3 Stages in Dating

There are 3 unsurprising stages that couples experience in a dating relationship. At every stage, there is frequently a choice (at times more keenly thoughtful than others) to push ahead or to end the relationship.

A few phases take longer than others to experience and a few people take any longer at every stage. Tragically, a few people don’t completely understand and process every phase as an open door for self-awareness or to make a solid assessment about the relationship or about themselves.

The First Stage: Initial Meeting/Attraction

Dating relationship needs to begin some place. The underlying meeting may occur over the web, through friends, in a congregation or social gathering, at a gathering or bar or any of a heap of various spots.

Distinctive fields for meeting take into account diverse chances to become acquainted with each other and check whether there is sufficient interest or enthusiasm to take it to the following level which would include masterminding a moment or third meeting.

Stage 2: Curiosity, Interest, and Infatuation

Amid the second stage, fascination and infatuation are generally affirmed.

Early fascination frequently includes the physical qualities of the fellow and incorporate things like outward appearance, body shape, interests and identity attributes. At this stage, the fascination may not be as well “profound” and every 50% of a couple is by and large putting his or her best foot forward. Contrasts are not saw or are expelled with musings like “not a major ordeal” or “she will change”.

Couples by and large don’t have much misunderstanding at this phase of the cycle as each is truly making a decent attempt to awe the other individual. Frequently (not generally) there is insufficient “is this the perfect match for me” but instead progressively “what would I be able to do to make this individual like me?”

This stage may keep going for 3 or 4 months relying upon the people and their development, experience and self-comprehension. Towards the end of this stage, and ideally at different circumstances all through it, it is not uncommon for inquiries of “is this the perfect individual for me” to rise. For ladies particularly there may likewise be a longing to make sense of where the relationship is going.

Going gradually in settling on any choices about a relationship will probably be preferred ones over moving rapidly (unless plainly the relationship is not a solid match).

Stage 3: “Edification” and Becoming a Couple

Amid this phase of a relationship, hormones are quieting down and reality sets in. Couples frequently go “further” in their association. Trust is more grounded and more affections might be shared at this phase as couples take away some of their “best face” and permit themselves to act all the more normally and loose.

Both parts of a couple will see shortcomings and contrasts or blemishes. “Adorable” propensities may get to be distinctly bothering at this stage. Some of those interminable issues or contrasts, for example, free-spending or thrifty, slick and efficient or messy and disrupted, intrigued by bunches of time together or more required in outside exercises start to rise.

At this phase of the relationship, couples will observe the distinctions and may even start to gripe or endeavor to issue fathom.

As closeness creates between the two individuals, more self-revelation rises, both verbally and nonverbally as couples act in ways that are more similar to how they are in their day by day life.

This is the point at which the unavoidable issue rises significantly more emphatically: “Where are we headed?” Women tend to pose this question before men, despite the fact that both might ponder about the response to this question. Pushing for a reply; be that as it may, may bring about genuine issues in the relationship. Every individual needs to listen to their own particular inward voice and insight. It is essential to talk over their contemplations and emotions with their accomplice while discovering approaches to keep from “pushing” for responsibility.

There is no compelling reason to hurry through this imperative stage and each motivation to go gradually.

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10 practical steps for fighting Discouragement

Discouragement is dissatisfaction with the past, distaste for the present, and distrust of the future. It is ingratitude for the blessings of yesterday, indifference to the opportunities of today, and insecurity regarding strength for tomorrow. It is unawareness of the presence of beauty, unconcern for the needs of our fellowman, and unbelief in the promises of old. It is impatience with time, immaturity of thought, and impoliteness to God. – William Ward.

A stale marriage. An incessant wellbeing condition. A drawn out time of unemployment. Discouragement sets in when you begin to have a feeling of sadness or emptiness about your future when it appears like the alarming conditions you’re experiencing won’t ever end. Yet, in the event that you petition your conditions to God, you’ll find the genuine trust and better future that He guarantees you.
Here’s the means by which you can beat debilitation or discouragement:


Implore
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God definitely knows how disheartened you feel, however He needs you to converse with Him about your emotions and listen for how His Spirit guides you. with sincerity loud your dissatisfaction to God and remember that He thinks about what you’re experiencing. Request that God open your eyes profoundly so you’ll have the capacity to see your conditions from His point of view. Appeal to God for deliverance from conditions that aren’t God’s will, and tirelessness to engage you to persist conditions that are His will until you take in all should gain from them.

Keep in mind Who God is

Move your concentration from your demoralizing conditions to God Himself. Keep in mind that He is love, furthermore that He is almighty. Assume that God will help you since that, it is predictable with His character.


Set yourself up for the disheartening circumstances you will undoubtedly experience.

Consistently, Satan will attempt to dishearten you somehow, however you can make preparations for such assaults by staying aware of some fundamental profound bible studies day by day. Ask, read and think about the Bible, write in a diary, and check in with a petition accomplice to give each other consolation and responsibility.


Adhere to your task

Contemplate the work you’re presently accomplishing for God. Request that he clear up regardless of whether He has really driven you to your present task.

Think about the victories and disappointments you’ve encountered so far and check whether you can perceive an example that can help you observe, in case you’re doing what should be done. In the event that it appears as though you’re doing what God needs you to do yet you simply need to beat a few difficulties while doing it, don’t surrender. Rather, battle disheartening circumstances by improvisation for how to proceed with your function later on.


Get direction from a Christian instructor

 On the off chance that your demoralization has turned out to be deep to the point that you’re attempting to defeat it, discuss your worries to a Christian guide who can give you scriptural exhortation about how to push ahead.

Refill your profound vitality tank.

Distinguish what’s bringing on your profound vitality levels to run low, record the issue, try and maintain associations with a couple people you trust who can go along with you in supplication about it, build up an unmistakable technique for taking care of the issue, (for example, planning a set time and place for every day dedications, or joining a week by week discipleship gathering), make a move, and make yourself responsible to the general population who are supporting you in prayers.


Deal with your physical wellbeing. 

Giving your body the care it needs will help you feel less disheartened. have a sound eating routine, practice consistently, and get enough rest.

Invest energy with somebody who isn’t debilitated

Time in that individual’s sure nearness will normally improve you feel yourself.


Provide for individuals in need

Connecting with help other individuals will demonstrate empowerment for you since it will give you the delight of realizing that God has utilized you as a part of huge ways.

Organize your life

Construct your timetable with respect to your needs. Try not to waste time and vitality on exercises that don’t mirror what’s most imperative for you. Liberating yourself from superfluous undertakings will energize you.

Discouragement Pills

2 Corinthians 12:9 

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Joshua 1:9 

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

John 16:33 

I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

1 Peter 5:7 

Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.

Romans 8:26  

Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.

Romans 8:31

What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?

Romans 15:13

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

1 Corinthians 15:58

Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.

James 4:7 

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

Inspired by Dr Winston’s “A Hope and a future: Overcoming Discoveragement.”


The light: Understanding Why we must Illuminate

Illumunation in the profound sense is “turning on the light” of comprehension in some range. All through the ages, individuals in each culture and religion have asserted some sort of disclosure or edification from God (whether genuine or not). At the point when that illumination manages new learning or future things, we call it prescience. At the point when that edification manages understanding and applying information effectively given, we call it enlightenment. Concerning of the last sort, the question emerges,

“How does God do it?”

The most fundamental level of illumination is the learning of transgression, and without that information, everything else is futile.

Psalm 18:28 says,

You are the one who lights my lamp the Lord my God illumines my darkness.

 

Psalms 119 which is the longest Chapter in the Bible, is a melody about God’s Word. In verse 130, it says “The entrace of your words gives light; it offers comprehension to the simple.” This verse builds up the fundamental technique for God’s enlightenment. At the point when God’s Word enters the heart of a man, it gives light and comprehension to them. Therefore, we are more than once advised to concentrate the Word of God.

 

Psalm 119:11 says

“You word I keep close in my heart so I might not sin against you.”

Verses 98 and 99 say ”
Customary investigation of the Word of God will provide guidance and comprehension in the issues of life. This is the main strategy for God’s brightening and the beginning stage for every one of us. In Psalm 119 we likewise discover another sort of God’s enlightenment. Verse 18 says,  These are not new disclosures, but rather things which have been composed and uncovered much sooner, and a few seconds ago comprehended by the peruser (one of those “aha!” minutes). Thus, verse 73 says, “Your hands made me and framed me; give me comprehension to take in your summons.” The supplication is for individual comprehension and utilization of God’s laws as they are examined by the person. Fifteen circumstances in this psalm, God gives understanding with respect to His laws.
One entry that occasionally blends contention in regards to light is John 14:26, “However the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will show all of you things and will help you to remember all that I have said to you.”

Jesus was addressing His followers in the upper room, giving them last directions before His demise. This uncommon gathering of men was to be in charge of spreading the uplifting news of Jesus Christ to the entire world. They had burned through three and a half years with Him, watching His supernatural occurrences and listening to His lessons. They would transfer those things to whatever remains of the world, and would need God’s exceptional help recalling those things precisely. Jesus said that the Holy Spirit would show them and help them to remember what had been said, so they could offer it to others (counting the written work of the Gospels). This verse does not show that the Spirit will do as such with all adherents (however there are different verses that talk about the Spirit’s lighting up work).
What is the Holy Spirit’s enlightening work in devotees?

Ephesians 1:17-18

17 I pray that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, will give you a spirit of wisdom and revelation that makes God known to you. 18 I pray that the eyes of your heart will have enough light to see what is the hope of God’s call, what is the richness of God’s glorious inheritance among believers.”

In 1 Corinthians 2:10-13, 

10 God has revealed these things to us through the Spirit. The Spirit searches everything, including the depths of God. 11 Who knows a person’s depths except their own spirit that lives in them? In the same way, no one has known the depths of God except God’s Spirit. 12 We haven’t received the world’s spirit but God’s Spirit so that we can know the things given to us by God. 13 These are the things we are talking about not with words taught by human wisdom but with words taught by the Spirit we are interpreting spiritual things to spiritual people.

God has uncovered His arrangements for us by His Spirit, who shows us very deep things. The setting here focuses to the Word of God as that which has been uncovered. The Spirit of God will dependably guide us toward the Word of God for our direction. As Jesus told His disciples in

John 16:12-15,

have much more to say to you, but you can’t handle it now. 13 However, when the Spirit of Truth comes, he will guide you in all truth. He won’t speak on his own, but will say whatever he hears and will proclaim to you what is to come. 14 He will glorify me, because he will take what is mine and proclaim it to you. 15 Everything that the Father has is mine. That’s why I said that the Spirit takes what is mine and will proclaim it to you.

To be continued next Monday…

Merry Christmas

Yaay! Its Christmas…

May your Christmas be filled with sparks of joyful moments, love, laughter, goodwill, and fulfilment.I pray that every moment bring satisfaction and celebrations that’ll last throughout the new year! Don’t forget to shower everyone around with Love and Jesus Joy.

May God bless you and your entire household…  

Hohoho!

Merry Christmas plus wishing you a ground breaking New Year…

From all of us at Relationship Pills!

Bridging two worlds: 3 common gospel mistakes we make

Two months ago, the drama team in my church staged a play about evangelism and the common mistakes we make. During the play, it felt like they were throwing shots at me. I was guilty for some of them, since then I’ve had this burden to put this issue up. As Christians often times while sharing the good news we cross the line, we seem to go far but the receiving end doesn’t respond to our message as expected on the off chance, we might be committing this blunder!

Quick question: At what Point do we Cross the Line?

Three years ago, in class; a colleague during a leadership class insulted the speaker to the extent I got mad. I felt so much rage because of the blasphemous words he uttered in fact he made mockery of all the speaker’s utterance. After the lecture, there was a burst up between us; another colleague Salau intervened and calmly spelt out his wrongdoings, Arrogant me said: “Leave him, when you’re pulling someone from the gate of hell and he’s hell bent on dying, there’s no crime”. The truth is I thought I was supporting God, Can a man fight for God? Can you bring people to Christ with arrogance and death message?

A resounding No!

As a Christian we should always remember “two wrongs can never make a right”.

A year later, I went for Global outreach day, so unknowingly we entered into a den of gamblers. As curious and young evangelists we shared the gospel and it looked like they were listening at first. After our scriptural declarations, they began the greatest height of blasphemous gestures and utterances I’ve ever experienced. Our coordinators simply said with a huge smile “Give your lives to Christ” then they asked us to leave.

Their response was Christlike, they knew where the line was and never crossed it… When do we Christians cross the line? I decided to write this after I read an update on social media, a scary message it entailed mostly “you’ll die, you’re going to hell.”  Is this the way,  we want to share God’s love and hospitality?

Romans 8:1 from another perspective;

“There is no now condemnation for those who are in Christ” its not talking just about you, it means as we have become a “Christ branch” a body; we can not be found condemning people no matter their stand. The gospel is good news not a death message on the off chance you do not seem to agree with me, its a love message of how Jesus died in place of you and i for the sake of love.

 

John 14:12

“Greater love hath no man than these that a man should lay down his life for His friend.”

1 John 4:8

“Whosoever does not love, does not know God because God is love.”

1 John 4:18-19

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 19 We love because he first loved us.

Here’s a lot of us get mixed up. I think that inadvertantly a lot of people believe in freedom of religion but also believe that their religion should have precedent over the others. And it’s logical, because we all believe we’re right. Otherwise, why would we believe what we believe?

But I don’t think this is a healthy mindset. Freedom of religion means just that freedom to believe whatever you deem fit. And you know what? It’s a two way thing. You deserve freedom to express your beliefs, but if you want that freedom respected, you’ve also got to reciprocate respect toward others’ beliefs.

But here’s the thing: respecting someone else’s beliefs doesn’t mean that you’re being ashamed of yours.

Rather, it means you’re implying “Hey, we believe different things. I respect your choice of those beliefs, and because I respect your rights, your opinion, I’m not going to force you to accept my beliefs without accepting yours as well.”

  I think this is particularly hard for we Christians because it’s so pushed to “share your faith share your faith SHARE YOUR FAITH!!!!!” Which I do believe is REALY important, Jesus himself commanded that we do. But if you look at Jesus’ life, a lot of what he did was respecting people’s dignity he touched an “unclean” woman, he healed lepers and treated them like family. Oftentimes when we’re so focused on forcing our beliefs on others even if it’s for the best of intentions, we forget to treat them with dignity in the process. Furhermore It is not respectful to use your friends’ heartbreak as a chance to try to convert them by forcing the Jesus talk on them when they’re most vulnerable. It would be the equivalent of someone coming up to you when you were going through hell and saying “Ha, what did I tell you? God doesn’t exist.

2. We Don’t Become All Things to All People

Now, in case you thought the above point was a “get out of jail free card” that let you never have to evangelize again, enter point two.

Sunday school often does a great job of teaching us “ how to evangelize .” And it becomes a character we do. We become spiritually alert (we didn’t have a “good” day, we had a “blessed”day), and make sure to always have a serene look on our faces. It sounds ridiculous, I know, but I see it almost every day. I think we can often get it into our heads that there is a right way to go about preaching the gospel. And that way is to present yourself as a perfect little stereotypical Christian.

But that’s not what the Bible says.

Instead, we’re supposed to be fluid and try to relate with the people around us. Please, with due respect!!! It doesn’t help anyone if you come in there with a “don’t you want to be just like me?” attitude.

Just to be clear : the end goal is for them not to have a life that looks like yours. The end goal is to help them allow Jesus into their lives so that Jesus can work with them where they’re at and take them to their own destination.

A lot of people shy away from church because they don’t fit in with the church crowd. That is one of the saddest things I have ever heard. But I think it’s because we’ve made ourselves so separate from the culture of the people around us, we’re too afraid of being seen as anything other than the most holy, or the most “spiritual” that we’ve forgotten how to simply relate to people.

That is so completely different than the first apostles’ experience. I’m just going to paste here what Paul said in

1 Corinthians 9:

Though I am free and belong to no one, I have made myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible.

To the Jews I became like a Jew, to win the Jews. To those under the law I became like one under the law (though I myself am not under the law), so as to win those under the law. To those not having the law I became like one not having the law (though I am not free from God’s law but am under Christ’s law), so as to win those not having the law. To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some.

I do all this for the sake of the gospel, that I might save some.

Jesus didn’t only come for one type of people (just Christians). He came for everyone. So why are we making it seem like Christianity is only for people who fit a “church crowd” stereotype?

3. We Use Christianity to Save Face

Often we can get so caught up in presenting Christianity well that we’re scared to be vulnerable. Because if we’re trying to show people why Jesus is the way, they won’t be interested unless our lives are perfect, right?

Wrong. And not only wrong, but actually pretty prideful, too.

Often we use our religion so that we don’t have to become vulnerable with people. We talk about the blessings that God has given us; we stay on the “safe” topics about how wonderful a relationship with Jesus is. So you talk for a while, but never actually say anything. You’ve only presented half of the message.

If we’re scared that nothing but the “perfect” life will attracf someone to God, we’re actually believing that “the gospel is more about me and my life than it is about God and what he did.” its  the bitter truth!

But think about it the gospel is true and it is powerful despite our weaknesses. In fact, even more than that, it is made powerful through our weaknesses! It is absolutely absurd to be scared that truth will scare people away from God. And you know why? Because God is truth.

God isn’t interested in tricking people into believing in him, like some bad telecommunications service. He wants people to engage in a deep, intimate/active relationship with Him that isn’t possible if it’s shallow or one sided. God isn’t only God in the good. He is also God in the bad. So let’s give Him and His gospel some credit, truth and hospitality are some of the most powerful tools we have, because it shows how God can work even when we mess everything up.

Inspired by Dr Ravi Zacharias’ Bridging two Worlds.

Please kindly drop your views in the comment box…

Have a blessed Christmas in advance!